Friday, October 31, 2014

How Are You? Who Cares?


"How are you?"

"I'm fine, thanks."

Is this code for:

A) I'm too busy and important to ask how you're doing.

B) I'm preoccupied, thinking about some nagging dilemma, and it didn't occur to me to ask how you're doing.

C) You talk too much and I know if I ask how you're doing, you're going to talk my ear off with your tendency to over-share.

D) I never learned manners and wasn't taught to return the favor when someone asks how I'm doing.

E) I'm socially awkward, and if I ask how you're doing, that will force me to maintain eye contact with you five seconds longer, and that's just more than I can handle.

F) I'm ridiculously self-centered and the only person's well-being that matters is my own.

G) I don't care how you're doing.

H) All of the above.


Thursday, October 30, 2014

Can A Play, Like A Cult Movie, Have An Afterlife On Video?

The beauty of theatre is that it's a live experience. But can a play "imitate" a movie and have an afterlife on video?

This question arose in the past year as I presented my first play, The Springtime of Our Lives. The drama, which has touches of comedy and musical flourishes, debuted Oct. 19-20, 2013, at the Columbus Performing Arts Center's Shedd Theatre in my hometown of Columbus, Ohio.

Me (center, seated) and the Springtime cast during our
June 7, 2014, run at the Kennedy's Theatre in Cleveland.
L-r: Nancy Niki Penn, Helen Price-Outlaw, Sufiy James,
Keith "Speak" Williams, Paisha Thomas, Christian Cooper,
Jerry Weekly and David Holland.
I describe The Springtime of Our Lives as an urban Romeo and Juliet set in modern times. Young star-crossed lovers Gary Bennett, a struggling musician from the wrong side of the tracks, and Denise Devereaux, an aspiring teacher from an affluent background, must overcome class differences to build a life together and live their dreams. (For a more detailed synopsis and info about the cast, visit http://www.springtimeofourlives.com/. )

Staging Springtime was the realization of a longtime dream, since I got the idea when I was in high school in the late '80s and now I'm - ahem - a few years older. It was an overwhelmingly positive experience and the cast and I received mostly good reviews from family and friends (not that they're unbiased critics, of course).

However, one thing about the production bugged me: nobody seemed to want to see the show more than once. And in my mind, a show is really a hit if audience members come back to see it again and again, like The Lion King, which is currently playing the Ohio Theatre in Columbus.

After the big debut last fall, we presented Springtime again at the Peggy McConnell Arts Center in the north Columbus suburb of Worthington in March of this year (so we actually performed Springtime in the spring). And we took the show on the road for a June 7 performance at the Kennedy's Theatre in Cleveland.

(This June 7 date had a special significance for me since I'm a huge Prince fan and that is The Purple One's birthday. One of my fondest memories of the whole Cleveland experience is driving home blasting funky tunes by Prince, Sheila E., The Time, Vanity 6 and other Prince-inspired groups as the cast and I jammed in the minivan I rented for the day. You can read my review of Prince's concert at this year's Essence Festival on the Fourth of July by clicking this link: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/09/looking-back-on-one-of-highlights-of.html)

It bugged me that friends and family who'd seen the show the first time didn't seem interested in coming back to see the show again at our McConnell Center or Cleveland run. I felt confident that the cast was strong and did an excellent job of inhabiting each character. And judging from the positive comments we got, the story seemed to resonate with people of different races.

But I got to scratching my head, trying to figure out how to make Springtime a show that people would flock to see repeatedly. Did I need to trim some scenes and cut the running time? Did I need to add more music - or less music? Did I need to punch up the dialogue and add more jokes or less jokes and heighten the drama?

An interesting thing happened, though. Several people who saw the show at one of the shows in Columbus or Cleveland later asked me if it was available on DVD. This cheered me up because it struck me that maybe Springtime is like one of those cult movies that people may not go to see in droves during its theatrical release, but enjoys an afterlife on video.

Of course, the ultimate goal is to take Springtime to Broadway, followed by a national (and maybe even international) tour.

One thing is for sure: next time we do the show, I'll have it professionally videotaped so I can sell copies of the DVD and enable Springtime to bloom perennially.

Thank you for indulging my Springtime reflections in the fall...

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Good Writing Vs. Good Storytelling

The experience of reading a couple of works recently in different genres has me pondering about the difference between "good writing" vs. "good storytelling."

These terms can be interchangeable, but they can also refer to two very different things.


I've never read Fifty Shades of Grey, but the S&M romance has obviously caused a sensation in the publishing world, made a literary superstar out of author E.L. James and is soon to be released as a movie. But despite its undeniable commercial appeal, some critics charge that the Fifty Shades trilogy is an example of poorly-crafted writing that is churned out solely for entertainment (and/or monetary) value.

In contrast, Stephen King has enjoyed phenomenal commercial success as a best-selling author for more than 40 years, but he's also received critical praise for his sound writing skills. He knows "the rules," such as not writing in passive voice ("He closed the door" vs. "The door was closed by him").

In fact, King is so well-known for his good writing that he wrote a book on the topic, On Writing, which many writers use as a style bible.

I've read stories that aren't well-written from a technical standpoint - bad grammar, commas and question marks in the wrong places or missing altogether, paragraphs not structured properly, there are no quotation marks around quotes, etc. But the crux of the story is on the page and holds my attention.

So if a story breaks all the so-called writing "rules," but keeps the reader turning the page, can it be considered good writing? Or maybe it's just good storytelling in need of a patient editor?

Ultimately, the reader is the judge.

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Repeating One's Self May Result In A Tautology (Yes, That's Redundant)

"Tautology: Needless repetition of the same sense in different words."

That's the American Heritage Dictionary's definition.

"Tautology" is one of those words that took a while (or is it "awhile"?) for me to grasp the meaning of. For some reason, I thought it meant "a contradiction in terms," like an oxymoron - which is the opposite of what "tautology" means.

Basically, "tautology" is a fancy way of saying something's redundant, like the sign below:



I recently got the inexplicable impulse to look up the meaning of this odd-sounding word and came across a website with a list of funny examples. This inspired me to come up with a list of my own: 

That comic-book character is an evil villain.

She fired a gun and shot a man.

He turned another year older on his birthday.

That 50-year-old man is middle-aged.

It's for real, actually.

I arrived home and walked in my house.

I was startled awake by loud yelling.

These phrases may sound funny, but not everything that sounds redundant is redundant. For example, the website I stumbled upon listed "new innovation" as an example of a common tautology.

But I can think of an instance where a "new innovation" isn't a tautology. Maybe a technology company has developed several innovations and a new gadget they've just released is, indeed, a new innovation. So maybe the correct term in that instance would be "latest innovation"?

Another example of a phrase that sounds redundant but may not be: "I got an autograph from that well-known celebrity."

A grammar snob would contend that it's a given that celebrities are well-known; no need to state (or re-state) the obvious. But I would argue that someone could be a minor celebrity, such as a reality TV star who may be famous only among a certain viewer demographic, as opposed to a well-known celebrity who is a household name all over the world like, say, Angelina Jolie. 

Here's yet another example: "That muscular man is a bodybuilder." You can be a muscular man without being a professional bodybuilder, so, technically, that phrase isn't a redundant tautology (yes, I intentionally wrote those last two words on purpose).

Monday, October 27, 2014

Adventures In Social Media: Facebook Vs. Twitter

New social media sites pop up every day, but the two I use most often are Facebook and Twitter.  Here are some differences I've noticed between the two:

Facebook is more specific and personal, while the "Twitter-verse" is more open. Facebook requires you to submit "Friend" requests to people you'd like to follow. Twitter is more of an open forum - unless you have privacy settings turned on.

I discovered this important caveat about Twitter earlier this year when I started using my previously inactive account more often. I couldn't figure out why my Tweets seemed to go unnoticed, even when I Tweeted about trending topics.

For example, when I attended Prince's concert at the Essence Festival in July, festival organizers posted audience members' live Tweets on a big screen next to the stage throughout the show. Although I kept Tweeting, I couldn't ever seem to join the ongoing Twitter discussion about The Purple One.

A few weeks later when I was tinkering with my account, I realized I had the privacy settings on, which required me to approve people to follow me (similar to Facebook), and only my followers could see my Tweets.

When I turned off the privacy setting, a whole new world literally opened up. The number of people who follow me on Twitter has more than doubled - from a paltry 49 to a not-so-bad 124 as of this writing. That's still miniscule numbers compared to a celebrity like Katy Perry who has millions of Twitter followers, but it's a start.

It's easier to reach famous people on Twitter than on Facebook. Speaking of celebrities, the open nature of Twitter enables you to reach out to well-known people - even when you're not intending to.

For example, I was recently channel surfing one Saturday afternoon and came across the '96 movie Love Jones starring Nia Long and Larenz Tate. I Tweeted, "Love Jones is a classic," and shortly thereafter Larenz Tate re-Tweeted my Tweet.

This is a screen shot from my iPad on the day I
Tweeted about  the movie Love Jones. At the very bottom
is actor Larenz Tate's re-Tweet.

I wasn't even trying to reach Larez Tate, but it's pretty cool that he responded. On Twitter, it's fairly easy to reach famous people by including their Twitter handle in your Tweets, such as "@LarenzTate."

But on Facebook, even if I had "liked" Larenz Tate or Nia Long's fanpages (if those even exist), it seems unlikely that they would have responded to my post about Love Jones because people's newsfeeds are so clogged up.

It's easier to see content on Twitter than on Facebook. When I "like" professional fanpages on Facebook, I rarely see any posts. Maybe I'm not following the right pages.

For example, I recently "liked" the Black Girls Rock! page, but when I log onto Facebook, I never see any of their posts. In order for me to see what the Black Girls are up to, I'd have to go through the effort of looking them up and going directly to their page.

But on Twitter, many of the people and organizations I follow post regularly. In fact, I wish I had more time to read (and watch and listen to) all the great content on Twitter.

Twitter is more geared toward business and high-volume traffic. When comparing Facebook and Twitter, the latter is much more open to marketing and other business-related posts.

On personal Facebook, I always feel a bit leery of posting about business-related projects. I always feel like I'm one of those people who get involved with multi-level marketing schemes and try to "politely" badger friends and family into signing up.

But on Twitter, it seems not only okay but expected to Tweet about my professional pursuits. If you're a writer who works in many different mediums, as I do, Twitter is a great way to spread awareness about your project and network with others who do similar work.  

And I never feel like I'm being self-indulgent or posting too much on Twitter. When random thoughts or funny insights pop into my head, I don't hesitate to Tweet them - that's what Twitter is for.

From reading this blog post, you may get the sense that I think Twitter is "better" than Facebook. Not necessarily. It all depends on what you use social media for.

If you're interested in connecting with people both personally and professionally, Twitter seems to be more suited to that goal. The only downside is that you're limited to 140 characters, but that forces you to be clear and concise - not a bad skill to develop as a writer. But you can add links to blogs and other sites, as I often do.

If you just want to keep up on what friends and family are up to, personal Facebook is the way to go. Although I plan to set up a professional Facebook fanpage, I haven't gotten around to it yet, so I can't speak on the pros and cons of that option.

This post is part of a series on "Adventures in Social Media." In my next post, which I plan to publish on Monday, Nov. 3, I'll explore the purposes of a blog. And why I hope my blog becomes obsolete in the not-too-distant future.



 

 

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Life's 'Teachable Moments' Also Offer Lessons For Grownups

We adults can learn just as much as children from life's "teachable moments." That may sound cutesy and corny, but it's true, as illustrated by a recent incident with a child in my family.

 
Last Saturday, my family and I got together at a restaurant to celebrate my brother's birthday. At one point, my adorable 6-year-old nephew uttered something totally incomprehensible. In response, I quipped, "Was that English?" No one laughed, and in retrospect, I understand why.

At the time, I thought my little joke was just good-natured teasing between an uncle and a nephew. After all, like many kids who are generally well-behaved, my nephew can be precocious and have a smart mouth at times.

Earlier, he had said something very sarcastic to my sister when she and my mom were discussing some grownup topic: "Why are you in everybody's business?" When my sister chastised my nephew for being disrespectful, he sassed back, "I wasn't even talking to you."

Obviously, my "adorable little nephew" can hold his own with adults.

But a few days later when I reflected on the family get-together, I began to feel bad that maybe I had hurt his feelings by mocking his speech. I certainly meant no harm and was just trying to have a little lighthearted  fun, but as a writer, I'm well-aware that words can have a profound impact. Especially on children.

What's ironic about this whole incident is that my nephew is a lot like me. Not only do we look a lot alike, we were born in the same month (August). And I had a speech impediment at his age. 

I can recall how it hurt my feelings when adults would harshly correct my speech: "It's that, not dat," they'd scold in an impatient tone. 

As a kid, I sometimes had trouble
communicating with adults.
 
I went to speech therapy with a very nice and pretty vocal instructor named Miss Cherry, got braces, outgrew my buck teeth, and overcame my speech impediment. Not only did I learn to speak well, I've actually done voice-over work.

Little kids do learn to cope. If someone makes fun of them, they grow up and get over it like I did.

But we adults should be careful about what we say around and to children, because we do have the ability to make a lasting impression - both good and bad.
 

Friday, October 24, 2014

You Don't Have To Travel To Immerse Yourself In Another Culture

Throughout 2014, I've stepped up my efforts to become fluent in Spanish. And during this year's Hispanic Heritage Month observance, which ran Sept. 15-Oct. 15, I "accidentally" embarked on a Spanish-immersion "boot camp" to intensify my efforts to become fluent.

The reason I say this boot camp was accidental was because I initially planned for the experience to last only for the month of September to coincide with a looming deadline for a big writing project (read about the book I'm co-authoring on the legendary All Jokes Aside comedy club by clicking this link: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/09/all-jokes-journal-avoiding-predictable.html). I figured, I'm challenging myself to buckle down and meet this writing deadline, so why not challenge myself in my self-improvement effort to learn a new language as well?


Halfway through September, I realized it was the start of Hispanic Heritage Month and decided to extend my boot camp through Oct. 15.

What did I do during my Spanish-immersion boot camp? More of what I'd already been doing: watching movies and TV shows in Spanish (read my review of The Blue Diner by clicking this link: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/09/the-blue-diner-offers-refreshing.html), listening to Latin music, including songs with Spanish lyrics such as Gloria Estefan's "Mi Tierra" and/or songs by Latin artists with lyrics in English, such as Sheila E.'s slammin' new dance track "Fiesta" (read my review of her new album Icon at this link: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/08/icon-sheila-e-releases-new-album-memoir.html and my review of her new memoir, To The Beat of My Own Drum, at this link: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/10/some-beats-about-sheila-es-memoir.html ).

I also listen to songs in "Spanglish," combining Spanish and English lyrics, such as Dark Latin Groove's "Gotcha," which has the catchy chorus "gotcha, gotcha mi muchacha." (Read my blog post about whether Spanglish will eventually render both formal Spanish and standard English obsolete: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/10/will-spanglish-make-spanish-and-english.html).

During the boot camp, I tried to limit myself to only watching movies and TV in Spanish or on networks geared toward Latin American audiences that broadcast in English such as Fusion and Fox News Latino. Why didn't this work? Because I don't have cable and can only access these networks on their websites, which feature miscelleanous video clips but not the full slate of programming.

Since I didn't totally want to cut msyelf off from the English-speaking world, I allowed myself to watch news programs such as ABC's ThisWeek with George Stephanopoulos as well as some of my favorite "all-American" shows (read my experience of re-discovering the '70s sitcom "What's Happening!!" at this link: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/10/finding-out-whats-happening-is-retro.html).

Did I become fluent in Spanish by the end of my boot camp? Of course not - that's going to take a lot more time (read my previous blog post about how I'm trying to overcome a sense of frustration over not picking up the language as quickly as I'd like: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/10/learning-spanish-aprendiendo-espanol.html).

But the experience did help me to re-focus on my goal of becoming bilingual. And I made cultural discoveries that I wouldn't have otherwise, such as the serene, relaxing classical music of Spanish composer Federico Mompou and the thought-provoking drama Green Card Warriors with Manny Perez and Vivica A. Fox (read my review by clicking this link: http://chrisbournea.blogspot.com/2014/09/green-card-movie-raises-more-complex.html).

Would I do the Spanish-immersion boot camp experience again? Yes - or should I say, "Si"? As I continue to study Spanish, I'll pick a day or two or maybe even a full week here and there to step it up and "go all out" again.

The boot camp experience showed me that you don't have travel to a foreign county to immerse yourself in another culture.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

In Our Digital World, Is Film Dead?

If you're a filmmaker or just someone who loves movies, you may want to check out the documentary Side by Side. The movie offers a fascinating look into whether digital technology is slowly - or maybe not so slowly - killing off traditional celluloid moviemaking.

Side by Side really demystifies the movie industry, featuring interviews with world-famous directors such as Martin Scorsese and James Cameron as well as cinematographers, editors and visual effects artists who work behind the scenes to create silver screen magic. 

Directed by Christopher Kenneally, the 2012 documentary that aired on PBS was produced and hosted by actor Keanu Reeves, who displays a more intellectual side than in some of his movie roles (anyone remember Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure?).

Watch the Side by Side trailer by clicking this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFGJY_NJwwg 

Side by Side will also be of interest to techies and gearheads, since it details the history of film/video technology, such as the invention of the charge-coupled device (CCD), which made videotape possible and put "filmmaking" in the hands of everyday people.

Some insights from the movie industry folks interviewed in Side by Side:

The Downside of Traditional Celluloid Filmmaking

"It’s like painting with the lights off." - Director Robert Rodriguez (Sin City: A Dame to Kill For) on the unpredictability of film to capture quality images.

"There was always too much waiting for me. With film, there’s always that momentum problem." - Actor John Malkovich on the fact that the complexity of celluloid causes long delays while filming.

The Upside of Traditional Celluloid

"These young editors don’t always have the time to sit back and think about what you’re doing. With film, you did." Editor Anne V. Coates (Lawrence of Arabia).

"When they hear the money running through the camera, everybody brings their A game. ” - Cinematographer Reed Morano (Frozen River) on the fact that film cameras make a distinctive sound when operating, and is therefore taken more seriously than digital technology.


 
The Downside of Digital Filmmaking

"Now we actually have less control. We give away our product and anybody can take it then and manipulate it." – Cinematographer Ellen Kuras (Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind).

"I just don’t feel it has the latitude to enable me to do what I want to do. You can’t overexpose it... and still have something in the image." -  Cinematographer Wally Pfister (The Dark Knight).

The Upside of Digital Filmmaking

"You could shoot surreptitiously. It makes the editor's job easier because [with traditional celluloid] they’re often plowing through masses and masses of material." – Director Danny Boyle (Slumdog Millionaire).

“Not having to lug film magazines up and down this ravine for days on end in 100-degree weather and being able to shoot on a flash card and change magazines in 15 seconds, that alone was huge for us. It resulted in a better movie.” - Director Steven Soderbergh on the benefits of using digital cameras to make the 2008 epic Che.



 
 
 

Can People Who Share No DNA Be Siblings?

Are siblings thicker than blood?

Yesterday, while listening to a podcast of an interview with a celebrity who's just published a memoir, I got a strange impulse: to look up the origin of the word "sibling."

Why did this odd urge strike me? Because the celebrity was talking about childhood abuse and the interviewer asked how their parents reacted to this painful revelation. I thought, "I'm actually more interested in how the siblings reacted."

Can a group of people who share no
DNA be considered siblings?

Why did this thought cross my mind? Because people who grow up in the same family, let alone the same household, often see things from very different perspectives. It's not uncommon when someone claims they were a victim of child abuse, their siblings totally deny the abuse ever took place.

It's not that either sibling is lying, it's that if you don't personally experience or witness something so shocking, it's hard to believe it actually happened.

Fortunately, severe child abuse didn't occur in my household growing up (at least not that I'm aware of), but there are definitely instances when I discuss childhood episodes with my brother and three sisters and they recall things a lot differently than I do. 

So, back to this celebrity interview. Maybe it's because I'm a writer and I deal in words on a daily basis, but I decided to look up the origin of "sibling," since it's an odd-sounding word.

Turns out it stems from the Old English word "sib," which was a group of people who were thought to share kinship through a common ancestor (according to Dictionary.com).

Given its original meaning, I think we should use the term "sibling" more often to refer not only to our blood relations who share a parent, but to anyone with whom we share a close connection.

The Jacksons are perhaps the most famous siblings in
the world, but maybe we should broaden the term "sibling"
 to include others we feel connected to.

A thoughtful neighbor who brings us chicken soup when we're feeling under the weather could be a sibling. A coworker to whom we can vent when we're feeling overwhelmed and stressed out could be a sibling. A diverse group of friends with common interests who often meet up to play softball and go out for drinks afterward could be siblings.

It's not unusual to say "Bill is like a brother to me" or "Suzy is like my sister" to describe someone to whom we're not actually related but we feel particularly close to, but we give the word "sibling" short shrift. In fact, we treat "sibling" like a redheaded stepchild - pun intended!






Tuesday, October 21, 2014

'Boardwalk Empire' Writer Dennis Lehane Shares Secrets of His Success

"Ego is for small gods."

This is best-selling author, television and screenwriter Dennis Lehane's take on the need to leave ego behind during the creative process, especially when working in a group like the writers' room on a TV show. Lehane has firsthand knowledge of this dynamic, since he's been part of the writing staff for two Emmy-nominated HBO series, The Wire and Boardwalk Empire.


Lehane shared these insights during an Oct. 9 speaking engagement at Capital University in my hometown of Columbus, Ohio.

Lehane's novels have garnered critical acclaim and been adapted into feature films, including Mystic RiverGone, Baby, Gone; Shutter Island, and, most recently, The Drop.

He has won numerous honors, including the 2013 Edgar Award for Best Novel of the Year for his 2012 book, Live By Night. That novel is also soon to be adapted into a movie with Ben Affleck and Zoe Saldana.

Dennis Lehane greeted fans and signed books after
his Oct. 9 talk at Capital University in Columbus, Ohio.

During his Capital University appearance, Lehane shared anecdotes about growing up in a working-class Irish family in Boston and related the following insights about the writing process, the publishing industry, and the TV and movie business:

Writing is an often frustrating yet ultimately rewarding process: "You write a lot of failed drafts. ... You don't know the good ideas until you've written enough bad ones. The idea that obsesses you... you hold on for dear life no matter how hard it is."

He's very selective about selling the movie rights to his books: "I control one thing, and that's who I sell it to. I'm really picky about who I sell it to ... I've been really lucky."

Many of his books and movies weren't immediate hits:
"A lot of things I've worked on have built a reputation. Nobody watched The Wire. ... That's a been a theme in my work, is something that builds in reputation rather than makes a big splash." 

He doesn't intend for every book he writes to be turned into a movie: "Any Given Day is not for film. I wrote it as my 'anti-film' book. That's why it's 700 pages. ... It's meant to be read, it's meant to be a book you invest in."  

He doesn't read other books in his genre of crime fiction: "I read mostly nonfiction. I read mostly for research purposes. It's very rare that I read for pleasure anymore, which is sad."
 
Despite all of his success, he couldn't impress his father: When Lehane's father visited the set of Mystic River, "he says, 'None of this is real and they're all here because of you?' I said, 'Yes.' He said, 'Do you ever think of going back to teaching?'"

Monday, October 20, 2014

Can You Alienate People By Responding To Their Facebook Comments?

When you post something on Facebook and someone takes time out of their busy schedule to comment, you may think acknowledging their comment with a response is the polite thing to do. You're wrong. And here's why:

Responding to comments on Facebook could actually discourage friends and acquaintances from commenting on your posts because your replies clog up their newsfeeds and email addresses where they receive Facebook notifications.



By responding to everyone's comments to your post, you run the risk of becoming that annoying friend whom everyone avoids because the motormouth never knows when to shut up. You can't just have a quick "hi and bye" chat with that person; they always entangle you in a long, drawn-out conversation for which you just don't have the time or interest.

I've found that sometimes it's preferable to "like" people's comments to my posts rather than responding with a comment of my own - that way, you're not always trying to have the last word. Another option is to wait until the last comment to your post has come in and then post a response to the entire group, such as, "Thanks, everybody, for your insights."

The only problem with the latter approach is that sometimes comments to posts trickle in not only days after you've posted something, but weeks later. It all depends on when people log in and see the post.

Of course, as with everything involving social media, there are exceptions to every "rule." Here are some exceptions for when it's okay to respond to every comment to one of your posts:

You've set up a professional fanpage. If you're an author, a musician, a photographer or some other creative type or a business owner and you've set up a professional fanpage, your followers will get a kick out of your responses to their comments. It makes the experience of supporting your work an interactive one.

A major life event. I think it's not only perfectly acceptable, but people expect you to respond when you've posted about a major life event such as a wedding, the birth of a child, an illness or death of a loved one, a new job, a job loss, relocating to a new city for a new opportunity, etc. Birthdays and other special occasions also tend to elicit a lot of comments to which people either expect or don't mind if you respond. And anything involving people's kids seems to generate a lot of conversation threads.

A hot topic. If you post about something currently in the news, people may want to have a back-and-forth conversation, especially if it's something that may directly affect them. For example, a lot of people are buzzing about the Ebola outbreak, especially in Ohio, where I live, because one of the infected workers from Texas traveled to Cleveland. Many people, therefore, are understandably curious about how to prevent contracting the virus.

Pop culture. This category is hit and miss, since taste in music, movies, books, TV shows, etc., is very much an individual thing. And people have surprisingly short attention spans - and even shorter memories.

I'm often taken aback when I make a "remember when" post about cultural touchstones from my generation (Generation X), but none of my peers seems to recall what I'm referring to. However, posts about some current cultural trend, such as the most recent episode of a much-watched TV show like The Big Bang Theory or the latest elimination on The Voice or Dancing with the Stars, can turn into an online water-cooler discussion.

This is part of a series of posts on "Adventures in Social Media." In my next post on this topic, which I plan to publish on Monday, Oct. 27, I'll explore the main differences in using Facebook vs. Twitter.

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Are Cellphones Replacing Face-to-Face Conversations?

Are cellphones replacing face-to-face interaction? An incident at a restaurant yesterday illustrates the state of our modern world and how technology, in many ways, seems to be taking over.

I met a good friend whom I hadn't seen in a while for lunch. While we caught up, the waitress and manager interrupted our conversation several times to check on our order.



Halfway through the meal, my friend had to take a quick call on her cellphone, which was not a problem with me. But this is when I became slightly irritated: when the manager approached our table again, he started talking to us, and upon noticing that my friend was on her cellphone, he stopped short and said, "Oh, I'll come back," and walked away.

I must say that being interrupted mid-sentence is one of my pet peeves, and this happens quite frequently at restaurants when well-meaning restaurant staff who are just trying to do their jobs approach my table. They very rarely say, "Excuse me," and instead just start talking without regard for if they're interrupting what might be an important and/or sensitive conversation.  

Apparently, interrupting people who are speaking face to face is perfectly fine. But interrupting a phone call is a no-no.

So maybe I should start putting a phone to my ear so that I won't be interrupted from now on!

Friday, October 17, 2014

Are Funny Ladies Cristela Alonzo and Kim Coles Distant Cousins?

Did you happen to catch the debut  of comedian Cristela Alonzo's self-titled ABC sitcom last Friday? I really enjoyed it and am looking forward to tonight's episode. 

The premise of Cristela: A Mexican-American law school graduate must grab her chance at the American Dream by working as an unpaid intern at a law firm, while living with her sister, brother-in-law and mother.

Watch the Cristela trailer at this link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gX1GBEJ-2aQ
 
In addition to the hilarious Cristela, the talented cast includes pop star Carlos Ponce, comedian Gabriel Iglesias and veteran comedic actor Sam McMurray, whose work I loved on The Tracey Ullman Show in the '80s.

Before her sitcom came on the air, I'd never heard of Cristela, but she reminds me of another funny lady: Kim Coles of In Living Color and Living Single fame.

Sisters In Spirit - Cristela Alonzo, left, and Kim Coles. Okay,
maybe they ain't twins, but can you see a vague resemblance?
Mainly the sparkle in their eyes.
 
Not only do Cristela and Kim resemble each other and have some of the same facial expressions, the way they deliver lines is similar as well. And, of course, they're both laugh-out-loud funny.

Cristela is Hispanic and Kim is African American, and they don't exactly look like twin sisters, but who knows? They could be distant cousins...

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Halle Berry's 'Frankie & Alice' Brings Much-Needed Awareness To Mental Illness

Halle Berry turns in a riveting performance as a woman struggling with multiple personality disorder in the under-appreciated drama, Frankie & Alice.

The movie was originally released in December 2010 and was re-released in April of this year in hopes of finding a wider audience. I recently watched it on DVD and found it to be an engaging story that sheds light on an issue that receives too little attention: mental illness.

Too often, people fall through the cracks of the system that is supposed to help them. And the situation of undiagnosed and/or untreated mental disorders is no doubt even worse for African Americans and other people of color.

Watch the Frankie & Alice trailer by clicking this link:
http://www.fandango.com/movie-trailer/frankie26alice-trailer/139403

Berry deservedly won an NAACP Image Award for Outstanding Actress in a Motion Picture, was named Best Actress by the African American Film Critics Association, and received a 2011 Golden Globe nomination for her portrayal of this real-life woman who courageously - and successfully - battled her inner demons.

The true story takes place in the '70s, when Frankie was working as a go-go dancer and began exhibiting erratic behavior and having black-out episodes. For example, she would wake up to find that someone had emptied her checking account and recorded the purchases in the check register in handwriting Frankie didn't recognize. She would then go into her closet and find expensive dresses with the tags still on that she didn't remember buying. 

As it turned out, Frankie had an alter ego, a racist Southern belle named Alice. There was also a small child living inside Frankie. As Frankie later discovered, her split personality resulted from trauma she survived as a young woman.

Phylicia Rashad and Grey's Anatomy's Chandra Wilson also turn in powerful, understated performances as Frankie's mother and sister. And Stellan Skarsgard is perfectly cast as Frankie's patient, insightful psychiatrist.

In the behind-the-scenes commentary, Berry noted that Frankie & Alice carries on the legacy of serious dramas like 1975's Oscar-winning One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest. She made an excellent point: movies that tackled heavyweight social issues like Cuckoo's Nest were the blockbusters of the '70s and '80s when she was growing up. But nowadays, such dramas are rarely made, and when they are, they often struggle to find financing and distribution even when they have big-name stars like Berry. (Read about Berry's struggle to get Frankie & Alice out of "development hell" by clicking this link to a Variety magazine article: http://variety.com/2014/film/news/why-did-halle-berrys-frankie-alice-languish-on-the-shelf-1201151777/)

Perhaps Frankie & Alice should have been a Lifetime or HBO movie instead of a theatrical release so that it could find a wider audience. Hopefully this movie will find an after-life on cable and DVD.  

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Will 'Spanglish' Make Spanish And English Obsolete?

"Spanglish," a hybrid of Spanish and English, is not likely to overtake either language in the United States in the coming years. But it will become more common as the nation's Spanish-speaking population continues to grow, according to author, scholar and cultural commentator Ilan Stavans. 

Stavans discussed the origins and future of Spanglish during his Oct. 14 keynote address at The Ohio State University's Hispanic Heritage Month celebration. His presentation took place in Saxbe Auditorium at Drinko Hall on Ohio State's  main Columbus campus.

Ilan Stavans teaches a course on Spanglish
at Amherst College in Massachusetts.
 
Even people who speak only one language are "multilingual" in a sense, Stavans noted: "We speak with our parents in a different way... than we speak with our pals on Facebook."

A professor at Amherst College in Massachusetts, Stavans actually teaches a course on Spanglish.

"It is not only the way we talk, but the way we dress, the way we relate to one another," he said.
 
Stavans, who is of Jewish descent and grew up in Mexico before moving to the United States, began teaching the Spanglish course at the suggestion of a Latino student. But Stavans was initially reluctant to formalize the study of Spanglish.

He said his original though process was that "Spanglish has no grammar, no syntax. You can only teach a language in a classroom that has both."'

However, Stavans eventually came to realize that Spanglish is a fast-growing language, especially as the Latino population in the U.S. continues to increase. There are
60 million Latinos in the U.S., comprising 16 percent of the population, he noted.
 
"If all of us Latinos moved to Canada, we would double the population and make up two-thirds of the country," he said.
 
However,  he added in a poetic turn of phrase, while there are tens of millions of Latinos, "there are no Latinos in the United States, and that is becaue the term 'Latino' is so elusive ."
 
 
Just as there are many different dialects of English not only in different parts of the world but across the United States, Spanglish takes many different forms, Stavans said. 
 
"If you think that the English spoken in England and the English spoken in the United States is the same, you're wrong," he said. "As playwright George Bernard Shaw said, England and the United States are separated by a common language."

Stavans emphasized that the presence of Latinos in the United States is not new - nor is Spanglish. He compared it to Yiddish and other hybrid languages.
 
"There is no one Spanglish," he said. "There are many different Spanglishes. There is such a thing as 'Cub-onics,' which is the combination of English and Cuban Spanish."

The backlash against Spanish in certain parts of the country is misguided, Stavans said, since the language and its Spanglish spinoff is not going away any time soon.
 
"Spanish is the largest language after English. And in some places, it's more important," he said. "Go to Miami. Spanish comes first."
 
Stavans illustrated this point with an anecdote about when he was visiting New York City and lost his cell phone and had to call information from a public payphone. He was greeted by an automated response system that initially spoke in Spanish before switching to English.

"The automated voice said, if you want to dial in English, press two," Stavans said.

That moment proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that "an important change has happened."


Just as there is an "English only" movement in certain parts of the United States, there are those who fear Spanglish will dilute formal Spanish and rob Latino immigrants of their culture, Stavans said.

But he pointed out that the prevalence of Spanish in Latin America is itself a result of colonialism, since European settlers imposed Spanish on the indigenous people of various countries. 

"I always find it interesting when people want to protect Spanish from English," Stavans said. "Spanish itself is an imperial language. It pushed all these other languages aside." 

Spanglish is unlikely to replace either formal Spanish or standard English in the USA - at least not in the near future, Stavans said. Spanglish will, however, continue to coexist alongside both languages, just as American slang is commonly spoken among English speakers, he added. 

"There are no pure languages. All languages bring words in and out," he said. "Shakespeare would be appalled by your English. You will be appalled by the language of your children."

Spanglish is like an improvisational form of music and adapts to suit each speaker's purposes, Stavans said.

"It's very jazzy and open," he said.

Spanglish alternates between more Spanish words and phrases and more English words and phrases, depending on what region of the country it's spoken in, Stavans said.
 
"If you're in Columbus, Ohio [where Ohio State's main campus is located], you'll hear more English spiced with the Tabasco sauce of Spanglish," he said.

Spanglish may be perceived by scholars and linguists as an informal practice that shouldn't be taken seriously, but the lingo is quickly becoming part of the mainstream just as other uniquely American inventions have, Stavans said.

"What comes from the margins of the culture eventually comes to the center," he said, "and that center gives it gravity."